If you are at the centre of what you do, whether a trainer or leader, you are most likely to push people into what you want them to do. They may well do things under sufferance but the buy in may not be there.
If it’s about them, they have a choice to accept or not. If you genuinely take time to find out what they need, trust develops. So consider this, if you are a trainer or leader, be a servant to the group, go with what they need, make it about them, not you….gift them your time and the space to grow….you will be amazed at what emerges.